Mr Nice Guy

There are two kinds of people in life I guess. Out of the many. Mr Nice Guy, who is he? No he's not some hunky handsome guy whom everyone loves and would love to be with, would love to be their boyfriends (or girlfriends, Mr Nice Girl maybe). They're just people whom well... Love to be nice to people. They are not direct, they don't just shoot you when they're unhappy with you. They laugh, smile, and when people talk they listen even though they may not be interested with the topic.

Basically they're people who are nice. They don't shoot people directly. Usually just in a quiet manner. And perhaps to put it in a crude term, they still "give a damn" about people. At time they're the one at the loss. But it's their nature. People tend to take advantage of them. But I also realise they are the "unique" ones. Sometimes they have something on them that always surprises me.

Then comes Mr Straightforward I guess. Complete opposite. When they don't like you, they don't like you. enough said. When you feel they're irritated by someone they will show it. When they disagree they will say it in front of your face. When they don't like things they'll say it. So in a complete opposite, they "don't give a damn" about people. This is my life, that's yours. Deal with it and don't bring it into my life. Just... Yeah. Go away and don't "disturb" me.

Of course, both people have their pros and cons.

Mr Nice Guy - Friendly, easy going, cheerful, easy to clique with people. Cons? Well they're deemed "weak" for not having something to stand upon to. Sometimes people label them as "fakes". Oh you're just pretending to be nice to other people. Or you're not showing your true self in front of others. Some may say they are just "keeping their image".

My Straightforward - strong, determined, know where they stand, quick-minded, "not fake". Cons? They have to bear the fact that people may not like them for their attitude and behaviour. Or for their straightforwardness. People may think their cold and unfriendly. And so on and so forth.

And the funny thing is when people call you Mr Nice Guy, you try to say not really. When people say you're straightforward, you'll either agree or just say "not really" as well.

I'm considered as Mr Nice Guy I suppose. But when I don't like things, I will say I don't like things. And no I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not someone who act nice in front of people I don't like, trying to tell them I'm friendly to them when actually, nope. I will, as much as possible, try not to hurt people. That's one thing for sure. I'm not someone who's straightforward and tell people hey I don't like you, or I don't like this and that. I don't like conflict, so I'll try my best to put it in a as diplomatic form as possible. I just don't want to hurt people.

But when I get mad, I get mad.

It's good to be straightforward sometimes. To tell people, to have the courage to say no, to refuse and to tell your own opinion even though people may not agree with it. It's a sign you have your own view. And you have the courage to stand up for your own.

But to forsake and to give in to other's feeling? I'm afraid that's not my case.

I think it's important to strike a balance between being those two mentioned above. To both be Mr Nice Guy, and to be Mr Straightforward. I'm sure you can be both at different times. And not be one all the time. Too much of a good thing isn't good, just like having too much of a bad thing.

Sometimes I think to myself, I ask myself. Is it wrong to be someone cheerful, easy going, likes to talk, and just being friendly I suppose. And I ask myself too, is it wrong to be too-to yourself? To just don't really care about others. At times I feel I don't deserve this, then whenever I think of that, I'll tell myself how selfish I am as a person. Others have the right to act and to be who they want to be.

I'm confused by life. So lets just enjoy its bittersweet moments I suppose.